5. The Past is History, The Future is a Mystery
• Table the Ex discussions. There is no doubt that we learn a lot from past relationships and sharing what we’ve learned about ourselves and what we want out of our partners is definitely important, but not appropriate for the first date. Find clever ways to distract Ex conversations, “…but that’s a topic for another day.”
• Pillow talk on a first date? Really?! Even if you’re going to bone immediately following the date, you don’t need to talk about it. Leave some mystery and discovery. You don’t need to provide a road map or instruction manual… where’s the intrigue?! Save it for when things are heating up in a more intimate, private setting.
• Establishing boundaries is fair, but keep it simple. It’s okay to share likes and dislikes on a first date, but don’t get too deep. Everyone has boundaries, but some topics are better suited for later discussions when things get serious.
• Don’t trust your date. The truth is, you don’t really know your date very well. It’s easy to get carried away with the fantasy of being with someone who looks and appears perfect, but believe me when I tell you, everyone has their flaws and their demons. Take it slow and listen to your internal dialogue. Be aware of any red flags you notice; intuition is a powerful tool, especially when you’re getting to know someone new.
It’s important to remember at all times that it’s just a date. You’re not proposing or moving in, so relax and be yourself. You have nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain and it’s not without its merit to remember these five tips when looking for the love of your life. Now, get out there and show them what you got!
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