Dating Tips 3 or 5 - Above all do not show desperation on your first date, it is a major turn-off | Still Frisky Blog

Being desperate shows more than you think. Stay focused on getting to know someone and not on the outcome of the date.

3. Don’t be a “Stage 5 Clinger” (Wedding Crashers reference)

We all know you did your research online. It’s safe to say they did theirs as well. Keep your findings to yourself. “So, I found your Facebook. Who’s that guy in your profile picture with you?”

Don’t discuss future plans on a first date. You can terrify your date quite easily or creep them out. The first date is intended to get to know one another. You can make plans together if/when the relationship develops into something less tentative.

Don’t be desperate. Playing Hard-to-Get is actually still a viable technique. Being desperate typically means there are much deeper issues. Sometimes we’re all a little desperate, but the game is to never let anyone know. This isn’t to say that you can’t be vulnerable. There is a difference.

It’s not a done deal. Remember, you’re taking each other for a test drive. Don’t get cocky and assume you passed the test; you might just cause the opposite reaction.

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Dating advice and tips - Don't be a fake.

“This above all: to thine own self be true.”
― William Shakespeare, Hamlet

2. Keep it Real – Leave your Mask at Home

a) Just be yourself, don’t fake it. What happens if the date becomes a relationship? The point of dating is to find someone who likes you for you. If they fall for you when you’re pretending, it can be pretty harsh when they find out. Being genuine will always make you more attractive.

b) Don’t pre-judge. Sometimes it’s hard to be eloquent when you’re nervous. Allow your date the opportunity to show you who they are. Don’t judge them before they’ve had a chance to prove how awesome they are once they get comfortable.

c) It’s okay to flirt on the first date, but don’t be gross. Being shamelessly sexual without charm on the first date can tell your date that you only have one goal in mind, even if you truly don’t intend it. A little allure and finesse can go a long way.

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My Secret Tantric Journey by Simone Defleur | Still Frisky Blog Series - Step 2. Practice Meditation

Getting in touch with our true selves through meditation and saying “yes please!” to our sexual energy, allows it to expand within us taking us to sweet ecstasy.

Tap into your sexual energy, which is stored at the base of the spine, through meditation.

The energy travels upwards aligning each chakra, until it reaches the crown chakra at the top of the head. Getting in touch with our true selves through meditation and saying “yes please!” to our sexual energy, allows it to expand within us taking us to sweet ecstasy.

For me there is less chance of having an orgasm when I have my knickers in a twist about something that happened at work!

I am discovering that meditation is the key to calm the craziness that is me.

Meditation is basically focusing on breath while laying on your back or sitting like a Buddha. I have been told to witness my thoughts and let them go. To not attach to them or judge them or myself.

You can use guided meditation but it may take a while to find one that suits. I have gone through a few and it was tough to find one that I liked: either the persons voice bugged me or the music was pants. So, I opted for nature sounds but you should look through You Tube and find one that suits your tastes.

I read: to reduce activity in the brain I should turn my eyes upwards. It was also recommended doing this whilst having sex: an image popped into my head of me looking like a zombie.. Sexy!

Meditation takes practice so don’t give up.

Don’t be put off meditating because your mind is like a wild horse that seem like it can not be tamed (unless that’s just me!). Like everything, it takes practice. I know people who have practiced for years and they still have the monkey mind days.

I started practicing just for 6 minutes twice a day. It has been a good way to connect with myself and feel my energy flow through me and to be honest it gets me high! Which explains why all of those people at the yoga retreats in Thailand seemed like they were on something. They were, except it is legal and available to you whenever, wherever.

Tap into your sexual energy, which is stored at the base of the spine, through meditation. The energy travels upwards aligning each chakra, until it reaches the crown chakra at the top of the head. Getting in touch with our … Continue reading

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