Their is sharing and then there is oversharring which can get you into trouble on the first date.  Also, do not concern yourself with someones history or their Little Black Book

Their is sharing and then there is over-sharing, which can get you into trouble on the first date, so do not divulge too much about yourself. Also, do not concern yourself with delving too deeply into someone’s history (i.e. their Little Black Book)

5. The Past is History, The Future is a Mystery


• Table the Ex discussions. There is no doubt that we learn a lot from past relationships and sharing what we’ve learned about ourselves and what we want out of our partners is definitely important, but not appropriate for the first date. Find clever ways to distract Ex conversations, “…but that’s a topic for another day.”

• Pillow talk on a first date? Really?! Even if you’re going to bone immediately following the date, you don’t need to talk about it. Leave some mystery and discovery. You don’t need to provide a road map or instruction manual… where’s the intrigue?! Save it for when things are heating up in a more intimate, private setting.

• Establishing boundaries is fair, but keep it simple. It’s okay to share likes and dislikes on a first date, but don’t get too deep. Everyone has boundaries, but some topics are better suited for later discussions when things get serious.

• Don’t trust your date. The truth is, you don’t really know your date very well. It’s easy to get carried away with the fantasy of being with someone who looks and appears perfect, but believe me when I tell you, everyone has their flaws and their demons. Take it slow and listen to your internal dialogue. Be aware of any red flags you notice; intuition is a powerful tool, especially when you’re getting to know someone new.

It’s important to remember at all times that it’s just a date. You’re not proposing or moving in, so relax and be yourself. You have nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain and it’s not without its merit to remember these five tips when looking for the love of your life. Now, get out there and show them what you got!

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Chatting on the phone on the first date is lame.

Chatting on the phone on the first date is lame.

4. Keep your Eyes on the Prize

• Put your phone away! When we’re nervous, we fidget and we all know how exciting it can be to see that you got a new Facebook comment or a text from your Bestie; don’t do it! Your date may think you’re bored with them or easily disinterested which bodes badly for a healthy potential relationship.

• Don’t be dense! During any date there are THREE conversations going on simultaneously. The verbal conversation is where you’re exchanging words to pass information. There’s the sub-verbal conversation where the tone of their voice, readiness, or hesitance to respond cues you to whether or not their interested in the topic/you. And finally, there’s they body language where you discern physical attraction and comfort level.

• Read between the lines. Don’t go in for a farewell kiss unless your date’s non-verbal cues indicated they were open to the gesture. Especially on a first date, a hug or a handshake may be a safer bet. Pay attention to the signals that are being sent your way. Maybe they’re waiting for YOU to make the first move; were you paying attention?

• The server is hot? Pretend you don’t notice. Your date will instantly pick up on eye movement if you fixate on someone else. You could trigger insecurities in your date and make them feel that they’re not attractive enough or that you’re not interested.

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Tantra Yoga for Great Sex Positions

A limber body will help you achieve new sexual positions and increase your stamina both necessary for trying new great Tantric sexual positions.

3. Practice Yoga

I am so guilty of not sticking to a regular exercise routine. Yoga is focusing on breath while slowly moving into each posture – it improves flexibility and nourishes your body with oxygen. Its also believed that past emotions and our history is stored in our cell, tissues and organs. Through Yoga they (i.e. negative emotional energy) can be healed and released. This would explain why I broke down crying after a full week of Yoga with no lady time pending.

I have learned that I don’t need to be able to bend myself into a pretzel to do Yoga and that expanding energy gives energy (in other words when I get off my lazy butt and exercise the result is that I feel energized).

Here are some simple easy postures that I am hoping in time will assist me with future ‘bedroom postures.

 


Tantra is about being playful and flirtatious so.. dance for yourself

This may sound a little crazy but I have taken to dressing up in my sexiest underwear and dancing for myself. I even cleaned my house with stockings on! It was fun and I can justify it: it is in preparation for my sexy show for my lover. Alternately you could learn salsa or belly dancing, either way get your sexy energy flowing with dancing and increase your confidence.

Treat yourself daily to delicious food that nurtures your body and scream, “I LOVE YOU, you are worth it!”

I am a lazy cook so the above should be a mantra for me. I sometimes make popcorn for dinner which is basically like eating sugared styrofoam. Yummy:)

It is time for me to dust off the cook books and make my self good food. I will let you know how that goes!

Maintaining the intention of ‘loving myself’ (even for a short period of time) has made me feel more alive, more in love with myself, for me there is no turning back. I hope you will accompany me along this path. With continuous effort I believe this could be marvelous.

Tata – Namaste darlings.

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